So, by your logic, people must give up names because it’s ableist. Just as they must give up pronouns.

My issue here is that you didn’t write a piece saying, “hey, everyone, please keep in mind that many differently-abled people have trouble remembering pronouns and names. Be empathetic with us.” Instead, you somehow assert that pronouns are in and of themselves “ableist.” And that’s some anti-LGBTQ+ sentiment that I won’t abide.