The entire basis of your piece is transphobic. Nobody is “forcing you” to memorize pronouns nor forcing you to “bend over backwards” to try to remember them. Any more than people are “forcing" you to remember their names.

That strawman is based in right-wing tropes about how trans people are constantly coercing cisgender people.

When you employ this backwards trope and then have the nerve to claim it’s ableist, you’re not doing anyone any good. Not even yourself.